We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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A mother's worry
Posted by supporter on 21 August 2013.
We are worried parents!! We often ask ourselves - what have we done so wrong?? Our son has gone from a loving caring person to someone that has become so cold and appears to have no feelings any more. He hasn't actually admitted to taking drugs. A mother knows when something isn't quite right. He stays out most nights, doesn't have a regular sleep pattern. His appearance has gone downhill. He can be quite aggressive too. He has been in an apprenticeship almost now for 3 years, and is more than likely to pass out if only he turns up for work and attends college to finish his portfolio. We have tried to brace this situation. I have even asked him outright if he takes drugs. His answer is always no. Not to mention I found the long cigarette papers in his car!! It has come now to the point, he cannot be bothered to attend work regularly, stole money from my purse, sold personal possessions like his flat TV, run up debts with these payday loans. It has even got to the stage that we have now received two letters from different debt collecting agencies. It has come to the point where we cannot leave money laying around in the house, having to hide purses/wallets and had to take his housekey off of him. We have helped him out!! Not so long ago we paid outstanding debts up and his has received help from his grandad!! His grandad loaned him money ... on the understanding he would pay him back monthly. Unfortunately it has not stopped there, because already he has run debts up again. not to mention by how much!! We cannot see, where or what he spends all this money on. He has mentioned on ocassions that he would actually take his own life if he had the guts to do this. He has lost weight, doesn't eat regularly!! He came in the other night saying he hadn't eaten all day and that could we give him some money for a take-away. I told him, we didn't have money for a take-away and that there was a microwave dinner in fridge!! Oh he said "I will go hungry coz I can't be bother"! Normally we would give him money because we felt guilty about him not eating. We have decided that we will not give him any cash any more!! If he is taking drugs ... we don't want to help by giving him money. He denies taking drugs!! Does he need to admit he has a problem before we can even help him. If anyone can offer advice, we thank you in advance. As worried parents, we are very frustrated and very concerned!!
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