We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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accepting my son has a problem
Posted by sad and tired on 15 February 2014.
Hi my son is 22 years old, he works but lost his last job due to time off and not turning up. I have only recently had to accept he has a drug problem. I have bailed him out of pay day loans, which he has never attempted to repay. Sorted out his bills, and got him straight maybe three times now. He is verbally abusive and I have to admit I am starting to be wary of him. I have seen messages in which people offer him coke, ecstasy and other stuff so have had to come to terms with the fact that he is doing drugs. This month I have again sorted out his debts and bank account, holding onto his card so that he cannot keep drawing money out. He has begged me to give him money saying he owes people and he will be in big trouble if he doesn't pay. All the advice I have been given tell me to let him take responsibility for his actions. Stop bailing him out, and if necessary throw him out. This is where I am now, I have kicked him out but he didn't make it easy and I suffered his verbal abuse and kicking the door until I opened it. He has now accepted I don't want him home until he sorts himself out. He has only been out of the house for 2 days and I am already struggling not to call him and beg him to come back, but I know that if I do the cycle of stealing from me, abusing me and running into debt signalled by letters and phone calls from companies trying to get their money. So I think I have to stay strong and hope that he will find life so tough he will sort his self out and come home. Trouble is I am not sure he is able to do this, can anyone advise, I have spent so many sleepless nights and my work is suffering.
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