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addiction to prescription drugs

Posted by Chris1958 on 26 August 2017.

My daughter was badly injured in a car accident 12 years ago.  She sustained multiple fractures (including her vertebrae) and internal injuries; she was not expected to survive.  Since that time she has become addicted to, among other medicines, Tramadol, Orymorph, Oxycodone...she takes these daily with Pregabalin, Pizotifen and Lorazepam.  This actually represents a reduction in her range of meds since November last year.  She is being considered for a spinal stimulation implant which would help reduce her chronic pain.  She has come far over the last few months (now lives with me as can not live independently at the moment) but is unwilling to try to reduce the last medications she has access to in order to qualify for the implant.  She was 19 at the time of the accident; she is now 31.  It's very tricky (this is a massive understatement) living with her and her addiction.  She is economical with the truth, is in bed 24/7 with the curtains drawn shut, doesn't look after herself or her surroundings, is demanding and - frankly - bullying in her attitude towards me (I provide shelter, care, food, pocket money, et cetera).  She CAN, it seems, get herself up if she has the opportunity to go out or get to a medical appointment (she sees multiple consultants).  Our relationship, once good, has descended to the point where I just try and keep out of her way.  I have been living here happily for six years alone and now feel uncomfortable in my own house - the atmosphere is tense and stressful.  She doesn't organise benefits and although she owns a property (from her accident compensation) this needs some repair before lodgers could be installed.  Historically, lodgers do not last long if she herself is in the property as well - her behaviour is so erratic.  I'm new to this site and to forums - I'm hoping for some support before I return to work next week (I'm a teacher) as I'm feeling increasingly isolated and finding it difficult to cope.  I'm tearful and desperate about a situation I feel I may never be free from; all my support seems to be counterproductive - I have become her enemy.  She is very much in control of this situation.  I'm sure, as with all of your stories, you'll realise this is just a brief overview of a very complex 12 year journey.  I would appreciate any advice from others who have been in my situation.  Her father lives several hours away with his new family and will not engage with the severity of the situation; I have a younger daughter who lives happily with her boyfriend - I try not to lean on her unless I'm desperate.  Well, more desperate than usual!

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Icarus Trust
29 Aug 2017

Hi Chris,
I am so sorry to read your post and hear what a desperate situation you are in. It is so difficult I know, but there is support out there. I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We provide support for people, like you, who are dealing with the addiction of a loved one. We have people called 'Family Friends' who are very experienced in what you are going through. If you would like to be put in touch with one of them please make contact. It may help you to find a way ahead.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org
All the best with everything.

Chris1958
30 Aug 2017

Thank you so much; I will contact the trust today.

I appreciate your response.

Chris1958
30 Aug 2017

Thank you so much; I will contact the trust today.

I appreciate your response.

Icarus Trust
30 Aug 2017

Hi Chris,
I'm really glad to hear that. I hope that it helps. 
Good luck.

Administrator
1 Sep 2017

Dear Chris1958

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. We have a project at Adfam linking parents who are experiencing abusive behaviour from their drug or alcohol using children. If you would be interested in learning more and getting some peer support over the phone please email Alison Hill (a.hill@adfam.org.uk).
Best wishes
Adfam

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