We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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Am I losing my son?
Posted by patricia on 24 February 2014.
My son is 30 and this whole mess has been going on since his late teens. At first I very stupidly thought if I support him both emotionally and financially I would 'make it all better'!! How stupid have I been! My son smoked heroin and while doing that experienced many other hits and highs using other substances. I have always been there for him, or so I thought, in fact.....I now know he was merely using me (as drug users do) I was a meal ticket, money ticket and stupidly thought if I keep supplying him with cash when supposedly needed, then he'll not be tempted to acquire cash in ways I dont want to think about. He now phones me at all times of the day and night telling me he's in a desperate situation as his rent, electricity bill, etc etc is due and needs to be paid NOW, so who do you think pays all those bills?! Yes, you're prob right! I now know that every time he speaks to me it just one big lie. It saddens me so much, this is my son, I gave birth to him and held him in my arms those first few moments. But now....this is NOT the child I knew. This last week was one of the worst I and my other son has experienced with the lies and fabrications.I At the moment, I cant take any more and have asked my son not to contact me in any way at all. Its to give me some breathing space and time to recover. If I dont do this....I am going to go under! It will be a relief when my phone rings and I look at whose calling to see its NOT my son, to not experience the dread of 'what does he want, how much cash does he need'?? I lie awake at night worrying and thinking. Life should not be like this. If there is another mother of a drug addict on this site I would love to have contact with you, I desperately need to talk to someone who knows what I'm going through. Thankyou wherever you are
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