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At crisis point with brothers alcohol addiction
Posted by Crusha on 2 October 2015.
Where do I begin. I grew up with a father who would change personality through alcohol & become very aggressive.Mum gave up her marriage when my brother was 12 years old as she could no longer cope. My brother chose to stay with my dad & my dad isolated him from his mother & sisters for years & their relationship became mentally & physically abusive. My brother didn't speak up so mum & sisters didn't know what my brother was going through as he always protected dad. So now I have a brother who began to drink at 14 yrs of age & follow his dad's footsteps with his behaviour. My brother has returned into his mum & sisters life 4 years ago after he took my dad's car whilst he was asleep & drove it off the motorway to end his life. He was so drunk he survived and went to prison. His father rejected him & tossed him away like a toy & we have been paying the price ever since! My sisters have moved away as they can't cope with it and so has Mum. Although mum has been supporting him with me for years now. We fought for him to be under mental health as he is a manic depressive and self harmed. When he came out of prison he was homeless so between mum & I we gave him a roof until he got housed. He has been lapsing over the years on & off and made improvement, meeting a girlfriend past year but lapsed with stress in front of her & her kids with verbal abuse & remanded in custody. Released 3 months ago as I gave temporary address & homeless as he gave up his flat to live with his girlfriend who has tried so hard but has had to end the relationship. He has struggled to get someone to live as he doesn't work and I feel stuck with him on my own as everyone are at their wits ends have given up on him. 2 weeks ago I had a break away to come home to him drunk and verbally abusive to me because I threw the drink away I found he was hiding in my house. He knows it is strictly out of bounds in my home. Tonight he came back to mine after he had walked to a doctors appointment, firstly calling me to ask for me to collect him. I sensed he had lapsed & told him no & not to return to mine because he has been drinking. I had friends with me & the next thing he came back couldn't get in so shouted & kicked the door open. He just wanted to go to bed he said but continued to shout nasty threatening things at me. My friend decided to call the police which he verbally shouted threatening behaviour to my friends. They stayed with me til police took him away. So he is on the streets tonight & I am going through hell just thinking about it. I need to think about myself I am falling apart with the distrust & anxiety I have when he leaves my home & returns! Advice please? 😩
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