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A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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confused and heart broken
Posted by vejar on 1 December 2014.
Hi,I am 36 yrs old I am a mother of three . My oldest is 20 yrs old and I have been married for 13 yrs . He is not my oldest father . my sons father died when he was 8 yrs old of cancer.My husband had a cocaine addiction he would do it almost every Friday after a few beers . he was always very calm and didn't bother us at all ,so I learned to live with it. In 2009 I finally got tired of it. didn't want him to die since he was getting older. He is now gonna be 43 this month . I left him we separated. after a few months he promised me he would do anything to get back with me . I accepted him back and ever since he has been clean we now own our home and are doing good together.My problem now is my son he started smoking marijuana at 17 we would argue and fight I would find it and throw it away but h e would get it from school some how . he made it through high school. He is now 20 yrs old no job doesn't live anywhere . he has stolen from my mom my husband ,his uncle, his aunt. and only comes around for money . I finally convince him to call the doctor and get help . And as soon as he gets the phone he starts telling them that its because he grew up in a bad home where there was drugs and abuse. I know he was in a home where there was drugs but I never did any and I always tried to hide it from him as much as I could I never abused him . It hurts me so bad because I just want to help him but,he is truing to hurt me . he said he would have the state take my girls and I know it would be hard to do so since my girls are not in the situation he was when younger. I know my huge mistake was to stay with my husband . but I didn't want to let him die . I am very confused and heart broken . I know my son is trying to blame me for all of his bad choices and I had been so strong until he threaten to accuse me of been a horrible parent for staying with my husband so they could take my girls from me .
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