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Posted by Debs on 19 November 2014.

I was in a terrible 5 year relationship , he was on heroin b4 he met me I sorta had an idea kept askin him he kept sayin he wasn't . Then one night he offered it me !!?? That began my 4 years of hell !!! Soooooooo stupid all it took was one "yes" from me ,thought it wouldn't get me but heroin doesn't care who it takes . I'm from a normal workin class family no problems always worked. By the end of 4 years I had nothing no job, no money, no house, NOTHING. Then I was arrested that was the lowest point for me, I moved back home to my parents told them everything (I'm 34) they were shocked to say the least but BRILLIANT !! I had no choice but to get clean, I tried meth, subbys and suboxones before nothing had worked so this time I went cold turkey !!! PAIN ain't the word !!!! But I'm 4 months in now still at home left the relationship that got me into this mess and doin ok, still gotta long way to go but it's a start. There is hope xxx

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CANT TAKE NO MORE
20 Nov 2014

Debs, massive well done...what a very brave woman you are. I hope you are getting professional help, if not just for the support....and what wonderful parents you have...take care sweet heart, and keep fighting to stay clean...one day at a time xxx

Icarus Trust
20 Nov 2014

Hi Debs,
Well done you! Sounds like you are doing really well with great support from your parents.
There are other people out there if you or your family need any more help and support. 
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust who provide a free service. We can signpost you to professional help or just be there to talk to you, your family or friends by putting you in touch with   trained volunteers, called Family Friends. These are people who who have experienced situations like your own, who will talk to you or your family in confidence and may be able to help. 
Please contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website www.icarustrst.org
Hope this helps.
Keep strong and good luck!

Debs
20 Nov 2014

Thanks for your kind words I tried group therapy only worked for a bit , got some one on one counselling starting soon , once you get over the physical things you definitely need to work on the mental side of things, that's the hard part for me anyway xxx

CazAndyx
21 Nov 2014

Yay! Your amazing, stay strong and focus on what's ahead.. you should be so proud of yourself x

CazAndyx
21 Nov 2014

Yay! Your amazing, stay strong and focus on what's ahead.. you should be so proud of yourself x

CazAndyx
21 Nov 2014

And it is going to be tough but you know what,,, believe you can and you will. Um mm I know that's easier said than done but your getting there and look at how far you've come. Counselling is great, they'll become someone you can trust, the drug is a fake friend, it's purpose is to control. Allow yr self to engage fully with the therapy,  never doubt how strong you are, just by what you've written and your journey speaks volumes of just how amazing you are!!!

Debs
21 Nov 2014

@CazAndy thanks hun people think it's the cold turkey that's the worst bit but it's not it's over and done with within a week , yeah it sucks but I just thought of it as havin the flu real bad !!! Sounds crazy I know !!? (And you've gotta really wanna stop to do it this way) It's the integrating back into society that's the hard part. I've just joined the gym (I hate it) but I always feel good after because I'm doin something positive. Life is hard for everyone we've just gotta learn to turn to something else rather than drugs. Retain your brain :0) xxx

Debs
21 Nov 2014

@CazAndy thanks hun people think it's the cold turkey that's the worst bit but it's not it's over and done with within a week , yeah it sucks but I just thought of it as havin the flu real bad !!! Sounds crazy I know !!? (And you've gotta really wanna stop to do it this way) It's the integrating back into society that's the hard part. I've just joined the gym (I hate it) but I always feel good after because I'm doin something positive. Life is hard for everyone we've just gotta learn to turn to something else rather than drugs. Retain your brain :0) xxx

CANT TAKE NO MORE
22 Nov 2014

Hi debs, my son is in recovery from alcohol and drug use....and you are so right...it's what's going o. In his head now, that's the real problem...I'm thankful he is getting help from some great people..his counsellor, a psych councellor, his doctor and of course his family...every day is a struggle, but he fights for his sobriety....he is damaged, but reached out at the tight time...we had some great news yesterday...he got himself a job end of August and his boss has asked him to go for supervisors role...just the affirmation that he is valued, boosts his self esteem....you are on the right path, so keep doing what your doing....mum and dad must be soooooo proud! Hugs and love to you x

Debs
24 Nov 2014

@cant take no more - great news about ur son !!😄 everyday is a struggle but with the right support it can be done, sounds like he's got a great family it makes all the difference. Some people aren't as fortunate and that makes me sad, without my family I couldn't have come this far. Hope your son enjoys his new job, hopefully I'll be back to work soon 😃 hugs and love to you and your family. Keep fighting the good fight xxxx

Debs
24 Nov 2014

@cant take no more - great news about ur son !!😄 everyday is a struggle but with the right support it can be done, sounds like he's got a great family it makes all the difference. Some people aren't as fortunate and that makes me sad, without my family I couldn't have come this far. Hope your son enjoys his new job, hopefully I'll be back to work soon 😃 hugs and love to you and your family. Keep fighting the good fight xxxx

Icarus Trust
24 Nov 2014

Hi Debs,
Really pleased that you have got such good support from your family and that you have some counselling starting. You sound really strong and will get through this.
Best of luck!

Debs
24 Nov 2014

@icarus Trust thanks means a lot 😃 Hope ur well xx

fifi65
28 Nov 2014

You stay strong hun, don't let no demon drug or anything or anyone take up any more of your  chance at a happier life,, all the very best for the future Fiona xxx

hope/faith
25 Feb 2015

Hi, just want to say your one strong lady and you have an amazing strong family.  You should be very proud of yourself, you are living proof there is light at the end of the tunnel xxx you truly have to want it to come as far as you are. Take care

hope/faith
25 Feb 2015

Hi, just want to say your one strong lady and you have an amazing strong family.  You should be very proud of yourself, you are living proof there is light at the end of the tunnel xxx you truly have to want it to come as far as you are. Take care

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