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Don't know how much more i can take.

Posted by Amber on 9 June 2015.

My son began taking weed and drinking heavily at the age of 16. Up until then he was a happy. loving son enjoying school as much as boys do at that age and enjoying his sport. music. He went to 6th form and it all started from then and has continued. He is now 28 living at home, not working. In the last ten years he has been in and out of work and has not worked at all the last three years. The last year and a half have been the hardest since he has shut himself in his room and been reading books and educating himself with common law, peoples rights and conspiracy theories. He also reads the dictionary and refers to it a lot.He has stopped drinking heavily, but has continued to use weed and only weed as far as we know. He has begun analysing every word you say, is argumentative over the slightest of things.We are the ones who are brainwashed and have no understanding of the real world. He has no respect for my husband and I and has not had a relationship with his brothers for the last three years. Every weekend  is stressful. I hate coming home in the evenings as he will start a conversation that I find hard to follow  because it makes no sense and he will shout at me. We have been to the doctors who believes its psychosis but is unable to do anything unless my son admit's to having a problem which he won't.He use to care about his fitness and now looks dreadful having lost a lot of weight. I just want my son back.

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lolipop
15 Jun 2015

Hi Amber .. My son smokes a lot of skunk he is a bit younger than your lad and he still lives at home . In my heart I know I should ask him to leave but I just don't have the strength  or courage . Weed has taken my son from me and left a shadow in his place .y heart aches with sadness for him . Nothing I say or do will change him I have learnt to accept it .. It still hurts though . Just wanted you to know someone understands what your going through ( the lies the rambling conversations mood swings unreasonable demands etc ) my thoughts are with you and everyone who has to live with the destruction drugs cause 
Love Lolipop xx

CANT TAKE NO MORE
17 Jun 2015

The hardest thing a parent can do is ask their child to leave...however, the impact he had on the rest of the fsmily was detrimental in the worst way. We set our AS up with a flat, helped him, and he caused nothing but bother...blamed us, constsntly demanding money....I educated myself, sought help then kicked him out. I didn't speak to him other than to tell him, he could be in our lives when he decided to change. No bullshit! That was over a year ago, and it's been hard , and we still get the phone calls, but for other reasons. He is trying to recover, and finds it extremely hard. Life is hard for addicts trying to get clean...but the light at the end of the tunnel is glimmering. I'm sure there will be more times when he finds it hard, but for now he's trying...he has a job, sees his son , which is a godsend.....drug addicts don't want to be addicts....that's the saddest part. Hugs and prayers to you both xxx

Icarus Trust
23 Jun 2015

Hi Amber
If you would like some support for yourself you might want to contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that helps the families and friends of addicts. We have trained volunteers who you could speak with as it often helps to talk through things with people who understand what you are going through. 
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org
Good luck!

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