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Help me be strong...........

Posted by scanners on 17 October 2014.

Good evening friends and for the lovely "cant take no more" "swifty" and  lolipop, thank you for thinking of me, I have not been too well,, I have alot of doctors to see but im getting some help at last. My son was in court also on monday and will be sentenced on 3rd nov, he pleaded guilty to breaking the non molestation order, harrassing and demanding money from me for his drugs, when he goes back in nov, that is for another harrassment charge and again breaking the Non Mol, again he has pleaded guilty, so will see what happens.I am still very weak, and not strong at all where he is concerned, I blame myself for enabling him for so long, I remember my daughter saying " whats it going to be like in 5 years time" and still nothings changed!. The non molestation has also been changed back to non contact wotsoever, we will see, ............I have to be strong and just say No!!!  All is quiet at the moment, but it will kick off........
God bless my lovely peeps xxxxx

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CANT TAKE NO MORE
17 Oct 2014

Morning Hunni.....you are getting there...and have done more than some....strength comes day by day...take good care of yourself, it's hard, but you will get there...but you are sending your son a message that his behaviour won't be tolerated by you, and that in itself is a huge thing...I know you love him, and so does your son....I hope he reaches the point that he can't take anymore, and seeks out help, and asks for your help....the change can only come from him....and remember addicts don't mean to be so horrible, they can't help it...it's down to those close to them to stop enabling them....hugs to you, and I will pray for all our children....xxxx

lolipop
17 Oct 2014

I am so glad that you reached out for help and support . You deserve to have some peace . Of course you will always be sad about your son there are still days when I want to bawl my eyes Out but they get less . As can't take no more said you will always love him nothing will ever change that and nor should it .i hope that sometime in the future our sons will understand how much we love them and they find the strength and courage to change . Wishing you all a peaceful weekend xxx

Swifty
20 Oct 2014

i am so pleased you have asked for help, I know I must do the same, because this horrible disease my son is suffering from has started to affect my gut. The message you have given to your boy is spot on. Please keep looking after you xxx

lolipop
20 Oct 2014

Swiftly I know how you feel I was diagnosed with IBS around 6 weeks ago but have been in a lot of pain for several months . Our sons addiction causes us untold emotional and it seems physical pain . Take care xx

Swifty
20 Oct 2014

Hi sweetheart, I am not at all surprised, please take care yourself...Stress is a horrible thing and the fact that you get zero help from mental health services for addictive illness, makes my blood boil, if our sons had any other illness, there would be so much help for them, so unfair. On a positive note, my 3 dogs help me so much, perfect wee angels indeed xxx

Swifty
20 Oct 2014

Hi sweetheart, I am not at all surprised, please take care yourself...Stress is a horrible thing and the fact that you get zero help from mental health services for addictive illness, makes my blood boil, if our sons had any other illness, there would be so much help for them, so unfair. On a positive note, my 3 dogs help me so much, perfect wee angels indeed xxx

pinkpink
21 Oct 2014

I have had a really close friend go through a sons drug problem which is an insperation to me I have helped her but like you it so hard to cut your son off and not enable but my friend did this and now has her son back home after 4 year and 3 or 4 times in prison I have had to do this it so hard for a mother thinking of you x

pinkpink
21 Oct 2014

I have had a really close friend go through a sons drug problem which is an insperation to me I have helped her but like you it so hard to cut your son off and not enable but my friend did this and now has her son back home after 4 year and 3 or 4 times in prison I have had to do this it so hard for a mother thinking of you x

pinkpink
21 Oct 2014

I have had a really close friend go through a sons drug problem which is an insperation to me I have helped her but like you it so hard to cut your son off and not enable but my friend did this and now has her son back home after 4 year and 3 or 4 times in prison I have had to do this it so hard for a mother thinking of you x

pinkpink
21 Oct 2014

I have had a really close friend go through a sons drug problem which is an insperation to me I have helped her but like you it so hard to cut your son off and not enable but my friend did this and now has her son back home after 4 year and 3 or 4 times in prison I have had to do this it so hard for a mother thinking of you x

pinkpink
21 Oct 2014

sorry computer playing upx

Swifty
21 Oct 2014

Very strong women, I admire so much, so pleased to hear of the happy outcome, hope he manages to stay clean...Much Love xxx

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