We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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Posted by max on 20 January 2014.
I have a beautiful 20 yr old son who has two lovely older sisters. He wasn't an easy child to raise but he could be so caring and helpful to others, in particular the elderly. At fourteen he began to change, his temper was quick to fire off, when challenged he would punch walls, be verbally aggressive to me & my husband. I was constantly called into his school. His headmaster asked if I thought he was using drugs. My lad had always seemed so anti drugs so I thought not. Just a stage of adolescence perhaps. At 16 after another flare up he walked out of the house. I was frantic ! I drove around for days trying to find him. I phoned the police , who told me that at 16 there was nothing they or I could do. I tracked him down to a house that was well known to the police, he wouldn't come home. He had tattooed his hands etc and was so angry and morose. Eventually he came back. We gave him a job in the family business but he was so unreliable and angry all the time. We were all walking on eggshells around him. My husband and I almost came to the point of separating , he wanted to take a tougher stance but as a mum I wanted to protect him. A dark time for us all. Eventually at almost 18 we had to make him leave our home. He was aggressive and intimidating. At 6ft 5 he would front up to me and much to my shame, he was scaring me. We found him a room in a shared house and paid his rent for a few months, hoping that he would wake up to reality. Now at 20 he is taking weed, acid, ketamine & Mdma. He is also making his money by dealing. He is open about this to us and sees little wrong with it, easy money as he calls it. He has huge downers from the drugs and tells me that his life is rubbish and he can't go on like this. I try to guide and advise him, I feed him ( he barely weighs 9st). I try to get him to see a doctor. He always says he will but never does. I'm sure this story is not unique. I love him so much and I know he loves me, he is so lost and I don't know how to get through to him, he is not a stupid boy but is on a self destruct mission. My heart is breaking. Have I failed him somewhere as his mum, I have two daughters who were raised the same way and are good hardworking people. I was raised in a children's home for most of my life and have been through tough times but vowed that my children would be loved and cherished by me. And they are ! We live a fairly privileged lifestyle and he has been given every advantage without being overly spoiled . My heart is breaking, how do I help my boy to be happy ? I am so afraid that he is going to either end up in jail or dead. If anyone can offer me any help or advice on how to approach my son or how to try to learn to protect myself from constant worry, frustration & sleepless nights, I would be eternally grateful. Thank you.
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