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Posted by colly on 28 February 2015.

First time I've been on this. It has been a real God send to find this site. I have 2 family members who are drug addicts and the past 10 years or so have a been a living hell. My son has been a drug user for over 10 years and I have recently found out my partner of 3 years is also abusing drugs, even though I'd suspected for a while. I'm devastated and feel quite isolated.

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moredownthanup
2 Mar 2015

Im so sorry that you are going though this, i didnt want to just read and run.
Take each day one day at a time and dont forget that you cant cure their addiction only they can deal with it.
Look after yourself and be kind to yourself

Icarus Trust
2 Mar 2015

Hi Colly,
Its true that only they can cure their addiction but, as you know, supporting them in the meantime is a very difficult thing to do. 
I work for The Icarus Trust a charity which supports the friends and families of drug users. We have trained volunteers called 'Family Friends' who you could talk to if you get in touch. They have lots of experience of talking with people going through what you are and it often helps to talk. They would understand what you are feeling and talking with them might be a help to you. It is a free service.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org
I hope that you find some support for yourself. Good luck!

Tired wife
5 Mar 2015

I understand how you feel. Me and my husband will be married 3 years this year. He used drug for about 10yrs.  He was sober for 1 1/2 yrs and relasped last night. It is a struggle and your users will have to want to change on they own. I told my husband that this is the last time it will happen or I will pack up the kids an leave. You have to be firm. And he knows when I mean business. I am so disappointed that he did it. But I guess he is trying. He never had someone there for him. Anyway, what I am trying to say is no matter what the drug the user has to want to change. Pray for your family. Praying has helped me through a bumpy road of recovery. In all this time I only lost $400. Better than before. BUT he is going to give his checks up on payday. I monitor the money when he slips.  Set rules and stick to them no matter what.

colly
17 Mar 2015

Thank you for all for your comments, which have been very helpful and much comfort. I will go onto the recommended web site, thank you for that. My heart goes out to anyone affected by drugs and alcohol. Our journey's may be different, but I can certainly relate to all this. I know in my heart there is nothing I can do for my loved ones, certainly not until they can help themselves, but it is agony watching them self destruct. Once again thank you all for kind words of support.

Icarus Trust
23 Mar 2015

You' re very welcome. I hope that it has been useful to you.

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