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Posted by Georgie on 16 November 2016.

Hi there, I'm looking for some kind of help/support as im at my witts end. I'm 19 and for my whole life my dad has suffered with heroine, crack, and cocaine addiction. I wasn't really aware of it until recent years, I always knew there was something wrong but didn't know what until finding heroine and crack in his bedroom a few years back. Since then his problems have got worse and worse with him finding himself in massive debt where he pends so much money on drugs, constantly borrowing money off me and stealing thousands off my nan (his mum) to feed his addiction. My mum left him because he was taking drugs in the house with me there years ago but she never told me this was the reason until recently. I've confronted him about his issues but he lied and said he was going to a support group and was clean, but weeks later I found him passed out unconscious in his room where he'd taken too much heroin. He speaks to me in an awful way, lies to me and my nan who is terminally ill constantly to get money, and it's really affecting my life because it's got to the point now where I know he's going to overdose soon. I have tried getting through to him that he needs help but he denies that he has a problem and tells me its none of my business. I feel embarrassed to have a dad who is a drug addict because nobody understands what its like, and I cant speak to my friends about it because they don't get it. I can't speak to my nan about it because she is in denial that he has a problem, I think she just doesn't want to face the issue. And my mum doesn't have much sympathy because she says I should cut him off like she did, but she doesn't get that he's my dad and I can't just do that. I think he is influenced a lot as most of his friends are also drug dealers as I suspect he probably is too. I am not sure where to turn I hope someone out there has gone through this as well and knows what to do?

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Icarus Trust
28 Nov 2016

Hi,
It sounds like you are having a very tough time and I'm sorry you don't have anyone who you can turn to. 
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust which has been set up to support friends and family of addicts because we know how big an impact people's addictions have on the people around them. I wonder if you would like to speak to one of our experienced trained volunteers who would understand what you are going through. It might help you to find a way ahead. This is a free service.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website www.icarustrust.org
I hope that you can get some help. All the best.

Suzy
18 Dec 2016

Hi Georgie, I feel your pain also.  Crack and heroin is a terrible combination to deal with. Sounds like your Dad needs help and quick before it is too late. I know all about the problems of these drugs my own Son is in a very similar position to your Dad. I have tried to leave him to it many times, he's been addicted to it for almost 20 years. They have to want the help themselves and like my own Son it seems as though your Dad doesn't yet feel ready to quit and get help. All you can do is tell him you love him when you see him, and try to deal with it by getting help and support for your self as I have done. I hope and pray that your Dad will be able to receive help and begin his journey of recovery soon. god bless you . x

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