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PLEASE HELP. All time low....

Posted by JMH on 28 June 2014.

After 12 long months of putting up withy sons drug abuse, I had to come to the hardest decision of my life today, to chuck him out!! I'm so sad and heartbroken. He was killing me in the emotional sense, I was enableing him, lovely home ,bedroom ,food. He lost his highly paid job, lost his car, got tagged, ..I have been dragged down with him... I don't know what to do now. I am wanting him to be at rock bottom and seek help himself. I have been with him at every step of the way trying to help him, all the appointments, drugs team, mental health, he has said it all has been a waste of time! But he never truly wanted to stop, why would he being at home, ordering drugs off the net, injecting, being in hospital...nightmare. Anybody any advise for me now....

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concerned mum
28 Jun 2014

Hi... I understand you completely....You haven t said how old your son is but I have been through this with mine....Not injecting..or as far as i know...Mcat and cannabis my son has been in and out of Y.O.I...breached tag no end of times and appointments with yot and probation...I too threw him out and things got worse but I had to for a younger siblings sake....Only this year he was completely homeless spent three nights on street asked for me to pay for b and b it was like living hell...I cried, worried felt like a terrible mum but deep down i knew he had to hit an all time low without me picking up the pieces....Thankfully at the moment it appears to have worked ...I am not saying indefinately and I am not for one minute saying it works for every one,,,but do think you have to take the tough approach....I hope this brings you a little confidence in what your doing...take each day as it comes and stay strong...Best wishes xx

JMH
28 Jun 2014

Thank you, my son is 24. He started with taking benzos, then sleeping tablets , then injected nytol, then yesterday ketamine!!!! I am out my mind with worry, he has been living on the edge of death doing this and I prayed everyday I wouldn't find him dead in his room...it tears me apart....he begged me not to throw him out, but manipulation n lies became the norm. Its tough love, and its sooooo difficult as I am on my own with no one to be my rock. Thanks for ur message x

CANT TAKE NO MORE
29 Jun 2014

Hi JMH, your doing the right thing, as concerned mum says, its hard but by not enabling them, and doing the right thing for your child has to be the only answer... It took me a while to see what my son was doing....and that broke my heart...but I am steadfast in the knowledge that as a family we are doing the right thing....

sad and tired
30 Jun 2014

Your story could have been me and my son. It broke my heart but I had to kick him out he had turned my life into a nightmare. I pray tough love helps but at the moment he is managing to manipulate others into taking him in. Be strong and let him see what real choices he is making for himself. Good luck

alan_s
4 Jul 2014

It is tough when you just can't take any more and then you feel guilty for trying top preserve your own sanity. There is help available for him AND for you. Look for the post from 'Icarus' on this section and make contact. They specialist in confidential, discreet help for the families of addicts. Don't forget yourself in all this, you need to be strong for when he finally comes through this.

Harret Micky
5 Nov 2014

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Harret Micky
5 Nov 2014

Well i am Harret.  when i lost my husband because of our son was a grug addict. i just have to look for means to get back my happiness and stop my son from drugs. That was when i read article and find oshogumspelltemple@live.com, He help me in so many ways and i only provide him some materials that he use and he said i must tell every body of how he help me as his charges so i agreed. that while i came to your blog to tell any body that uses it how oshogumspelltemple@live.com make me get all that i desire, bring back my husband and make my son to stop drugs...it really pain to lost happiness

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