We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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So very tired and emotional
Posted by Arabella on 18 September 2015.
My daughter is 42 and an alcoholic. Her husband wants a divorce and can't see why she can't come back home. Why must we be made to feel the baddies because we say no. My mother had alcohol problems and Alzheimer's and l looked after her for 18 years. I have cancer and been told to avoid stress as much as possible but thats irrelevant as we have a spare room which it is assumed our daughter could use. I love my daughter but when on alcohol she is a completely different person. My other daughter and son have more or less given up on her and told me she needs tough love to realise she has to help herself. She did seek help last year but couldn't be sure she wouldn't drink again after a detox so that came to nothing. She is now only getting sick pay so can't afford as much vodka and had her first fit last week. She 'forgets' medical appointments, and doesn't answer calls or keep in touch. She seems to be on self destruct and no one can stop her, we keep being told she needs to hit rock bottom before she can climb out but how much lower must she fall. Deep down l know it's not in the family's best interest to have her home, there's no way it would be safe with the young grandchildren here daily, (l look after them whilst parents work) but the guilt remains. Your kids are always your kids, however they choose to live their lives. Feel bit better for the rant, my family are fed up with the subject and refuse to discuss it anymore until she is willing to accept help so do tend to bottle things up. Thank you for listening, it's a lonely place for her and us.
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