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Trying to grieve.
Posted by helpformum on 4 January 2011.
I lost my eldest brother two months ago to Herion. He was 38 years old and had a daughter my age, twenty one. He had been clean from Herion for about 18 months. He then started dating an 18 year old who was a recovering herion addict. Or so we thought. On 25th oct 2010 I recieved a phone call at work from my mum telling me that my brother had been admitted into hospital following an overdose. I got there as soon as I could and knew by the look on my mums face that things were not good. We found out afterwards that he had infact been left for three hours by this girlfriend after he passed out before the ambulance was called, in which time his brain had been starved of oxygen. He was brain dead by the time he got there. It had taken the ambulance crew half an hour to restart his heart when they arrived at the scene. The next day, after many tests, his life support was switched off and we all said our goodbyes. The day of the overdose my brother had been so happy. He had taken me to work at half two and he was asking my opinion on whether he should move in with his girlfriend or not. He sounded a little unsure so I told him not to rush into anything. The last place I saw him alive was in my office at work smiling goodbye. He had then gone back home and at around 5pm he told my mum he would drop off his girlfriend and he would be back in about half an hour. An hour and a half later and he still hadnt arrived. So my mum checked her phone to find a missed call from him. She rang him back and his girlfriends friend answered the phone and said "this is what's happened..." then the phone cut off. She tried to ring again and said "I think you have a problem with the phone" to which the friend said "Yeah I think I have..." then it cut off again. And after that the phone just kept ringing and being cut off. My brother overdosed at half 6 and my mum was ringing at half 7 to which nobody was answering. The ambulance was eventually called at half 9 and then my mum was called at approx 10pm. If his girlfriend had answered the phone or called the ambulance sooner my brother could have been saved. It took weeks until we could have the funeral and when we did things got even worse. My mum was obviously devastated and so were all his siblings and his father. The police are still investigating it and there is going to be an inquest into his death. The reason I am writing this is because my mum is really not coping well, she is drinking everynight she is not working and getting extremely drunk then she comes home and starts on either myself or my 22 year old brother. I've tried to tell her that this is not right but she won't listen and continues to go out all the time drinking. She is the loveliest person you will ever meet when she's sober but she is a horrible drunk. She comes in, shouting, swearing and smashing things up. And she blames everything on us and says that we're never there for her. I don't know what to do anymore because it's just getting worse. Can somebody suggest any help???
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