We care, for the better.
A place for families, because you don't have to use drugs to be affected by them.
- How do I know if they're using drugs?
- Why do they use drugs/alcohol?
- Is it my fault?
- How can I cope with their behaviour?
- Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery
- Where do I get the help I need?
- Getting support for your loved one
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Posted by Worn down mum on 11 February 2014.
Hi all I joined this site a few months ago on a night when I felt things couldnt get much worse. How wrong was I??? By reading some of the stories I can see it definitely can. I hate really hate this whole subject of addiction and feel so gutted for anyone involved with it. I think the thing that saddens me most is when you see so few replies because at the end of the day no-one can really help. The advice is so genuine but so hard to give anyone an answer. I suppose I should wake up!!! There is no answer, no magic spell just a simple word 'choice'! We all have one and I will always choose to support my son but I've got to set different boundaries. His habit is Cocaine under peer pressure. He can be with certain users and not touch it but then someone who he would secretly admire for their confidence only has to look at him and he'll bow down and 'snort anyone under the table' to be perfectly honest. Its led to him receiving a 5 yr jail sentence for hiding a kilo of the stuff in his loft. He was clean throughout jail and for the first few weeks of being released. Then went downhill. The money I have paid out on drug debts makes me want to cry, if I'm being honest over the last couple of years probably about 10 grand:(( His Dad would go ballistic if he knew all of it, he only knows about a quarter of it. So the other day I paid someone £200 only to be told there was an extra £400 added on with interest!!!!! Is this legal cos I'm beginning to wonder!!!!!! So there went £600 and now its a £200 and a £300 and a £ 100 left owing to people now. I know.....'keep bailing him out just makes it easy for him' ....but what do you do when faced with the results of it not being paid?? Today he has breached his licence deliberately and turned himself in at the police station to serve the 6 months left of his sentence. I feel so bad for almost sighing with relief...1 I now know where he is 2 He wont run up any more debt 3 Im really hoping he gets sorted with some sort of drug counselling. He says this is his rehab. Bloody sad state of affairs if you ask me!! Anyway if anyone has took the time to read this you most probably have your own problems and I hope with all my heart they get sorted!!
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