I've been trying to help my partner, we have been together 2 years, he only had a small problem when we got together which i managed to help him cut down. But then he started drinking more and more. He drinks everyday and always has an excuse. It got really bad a couple of weeks ago when he got completely drunk and next day had to work very early and was still over the limit (his job involves driving all day) I told him pretty much our relationship was on the line, not those exact words. To be honest I dont drink at all and not known someone with a drink problem before so not sure how to handle it.
He told me he would cut down... he lasted 4 days which i told him i'm proud of him for, he was getting happier. But then his friends (they also know he has a problem) invited him out drinking so he went straight back to it, drinking everyday. His friends continuously invite him out to drink, not to do anything else. Even when he tells them he don't really want to go out they say things to make him feel bad such as "i will just go see someone else then since you cant be bothered" I do know that if we lived together i would be able to help him more but we are not in the financial situation to move from our parents house.
I can't tell him not to see his friends because i don't want to sound controlling.
We argue a lot about his drinking, i don't know what to do or how to talk to him. His never been violent but he does get moody. It's causing a big strain on our relationship and i'm worried about his health so much, I want him to see a doctor but he wants to do it on his own. Is there a way i can talk to him or any right phrases to use ?
I don't want to walk away from this relationship, everything is good and its much better when he don't drink at all. He said his been AA before we met and they didn't help him. His 29 now.
We did argue last night through messages and think his getting annoyed with me keep bringing it up, maybe i do sounds controlling :/