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Posts by emzi1979

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Partner of 1 year is an alcoholic by

Totally in the same boat, been with mine for 15 years. The constant lies really do eat you up like you say. Your empathy will run out but it’s really a horrible feeling being angry too. I’ve let a lot go but it catches up with you. I flip at the slightest sniff of alcohol on the breath, it’s a very stressful way to live. I am going to a counsellor next month. It is very hard to focus on yourself when so many of their actions directly affect your life. Mine has run up loads of debt, I have none myself and my credit rating is top, bailiffs are due to come round for his debt he works away in the week. I’m thinking I will have to ask him to take his name off the mortgage as it’s not fair, but if I bring this up it will end it confrontation so how can you focus on yourself when their actions directly affect your life. The only reason I can see why a counsellor would say that is that you build confidence to leave really. It’s exhausting to figure out x

Anger by

I’m currently at the stage where i am very angry and resentful. I have put up with an alcoholic partner for so long I want him to see what he does to me daily. My life has revolved around him for so long, friends no longer come to the house, every Christmas, birthday, occasion ruined. Yet he still has lots of people that care about him. People always ask me how he is, they don’t ask me. I’m angry that it’s all about him, I’m sick of keeping quiet I just want to blurt out what a selfish person he is. I’ve asked him to leave next week, I need to take control of my life back but I’m really scared. I don’t want to feel so angry but I don’t know how to get out of it.

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Drink drives & argumentative by

You cannot control them drink driving and if you try to it ends in a confrontation. He might hurt someone or himself, lose his licence and his job but we cannot control this. Remember he makes a choice to be irresponsible. You are the responsible one. Make plans to make sure you and your children are not in the car with him when he acts this way, saying that it makes me cross that we have a pre-empt any decision they make as it is controlling our lives and the children x

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Alcoholic husband in denial by

You are not alone, I have 2 children and been in a relationship for 15 years with an alcoholic. He has had a few years now and then of being sober but the same pattern returns. Your not crazy or mental, they make you feel that way because it’s a way to justify their own behaviour. Plan things with friends/family and your children so you have things to look forward too. Do some mediation maybe to relax you in the evenings. I hope it gets better or you find some peace. I hope the same for myself too x