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The 2016 Family Voices Competition Winner
9 Jan 2017
BBC Radio London presenter Nikki Bedi with Family Voices competition winner Annette Villis.
Adfam’s Family Voices Competition allows friends and family members who have lived through someone else’s substance use to express their thoughts and feelings in a creative and constructive way.
Congratulations to this year’s winner, Annette Villis, who was presented with the award at our annual Carol Concert at the start of December.
Read the winning entry below.
A letter to my daughter
by Annette Villis
I held you with such joy when that moment arrived the one that marked your birth
All those years ago, watching you as you grew, we marked the milestones at school, exams, sports and friendships made
Celebrated your achievements, laughed with you, cried with you, hurt when you hurt
Life was not always easy, there were many ups and downs, but we tried our best to walk onwards
You were the clown, the one who supported your friends, and the one who was loyal, feeling deeply
When you passed your exams, thought about career options, and the world was you oyster
The world of work beckoned, Her Majesty’s Armed Services, “let’s give it a try” was the cry
It did not work out as you hoped but you tried and that was the main thing, so much spirit
Adventurous, cheeky, fun loving, sporty, independent, competitive, good friend, loving daughter and sister
The next big step, marriage, then some more happy news, a baby was coming was it a boy or a girl?
Out of the blue the big black cloud appeared, post-natal depression hit you hard, desperation, fear
Is that when it claimed you this demon called drink, when it numbed you stopping you think?
Slowly but surely you slipped right away, it did not seem to matter nothing we could do or say
Could prevent that slide down the long slippery slope into the world of ADDICTION, you just couldn’t cope
If only, if only you had not got so lost, would you have hit rock bottom at such a great cost?
Could we have prevented, done more to assist, when you followed that path so hard to resist
Arrested for drunk driving, the loss of your children, your freedom if convicted and in jail
That was the time when reality hit, no easy choices, no escape and no quick fix
Where had you gone to, would you ever come back, all the wishing and hoping to turn the clock back
Then through all the sorrow, despair and the pain shone a glimmer of light at your darkest of hours
Was this the last chance for a new page to turn, Focus 12 could help you if you were willing to learn?
It was torture that day when you went through the Green Door, the last chance saloon, no more
Then GRADUATION you’d done it, those months of hard slog, you started reappearing out of the fog
All the work and the tools that you learned to use are still there, meetings to help remembered each day
I took my seat at the ceremony, my heart bursting with pride, the start of a journey, tears that I cried
We know the road is not easy, take each day at a time, but you have it in you to keep to your path
Welcome back daughter, sister, aunt and Mum, we love and support you, the Addict in Recovery that you have become.