Yeah definitely, it’s so hard to find the right time plus sometimes when I’m feeling really upset and low about it I get so mad and say why is it always in your time when we can talk? I struggle with that because I find it so hard to understand how they know someone is upset and just not acknowledge it.
I do a lot of researching but since he went to rehab he knows what to do, it’s just applying it to every day life. It’s hard. Maybe there’s an underlying issue, a lot of addictions stem from a trauma, or mental health issues etc? It’s a very dark road to go down but can be beneficial to find out the cause of all this.
Yes in an ideal world, it would be easy! In Al Anon I learnt that we need to put ourselves first and admit we’re powerless over our partners actions and almost learn to live our lives and not base it around them (its very hard to get your head round but does seem beneficial – although I find it hard to understand how people can just act like it’s not happening)
I’m not sure if you’ve heard of the 12 step programme, but there is one for co-dependants which is good. I have started it twice and then stopped when things were good but should probably give it another go. I bought the book off amazon.