I think unless he is willing to admit he has a problem and wants to stop, there is nothing more you can do to convince him? I used to think why does he chose that over his family and why is he spending money on that instead of giving me any money for bills etc. Im so uspet and angry and i cant seem to get past that. Because of all the lies, i dont trust anything he says about anything. Hes sneaky with money and phone calls and his ‘friends’ never come to the house. They just come outside in the car but apparently thats normal!
I also work full time which is difficult, he is self employed but he doesnt push himself and wouldnt do anything and sometimes doesnt. Hes lost jobs before from ringing in sick and not getting up. I was paying a Chilminder to take kids to school while he was off work because i cant rely on him to get up.
Children always ask why its just us 3, its like being single. Sometimes i think life would be easier if he just went because at least i wouldnt be feeling so angry and upset with him all the time.