Yes losing self respect and feeling like you cannot talk to others about the details as it is too shameful. I feel like I let my husband get away with things just to cope with the reality of living with an addict and trying to protect our son. My family know the husband who used to be great and cant understand why I cant just give him an ultimatum to stop. They make me feel like I could do more but I realise as time goes on that I will never have any control over his drug taking. The more I try the worse we get.
