Lostbear, I hear you, I understand.
BUT life is boring… mundane and hard work.
I think if the life you are after is exciting and fun then having kids isn’t gonna cut it.
I’m sure a lot of my husbands issues if exactly what you have said and I’m trying to take it on board. I will try and make it more fun, but hard with three kids and two having health issues.
I try and see this as a stage. Life will get easier as mine grow up and by the time the youngest is 10 things will certainly be easy.
I won’t wish they lives away for anyone. I would rather those cuddles, where they hold my hand and show me how much I mean to them. Over any thrill in the world.
It’s maybe more about being honest and open, saying to your other half what’s missing. Appreciate what you do have and try to meet in the middle.
It isn’t easy and got a long way to go to even try to understand how my husband feels. But it’s all one day at a time.
Listening is the biggest step.