I think a big part of us wants it too. We want them to change so it kind of merges with our own expectations and desires. It’s sad really because we want them to be the people we know that can be. But, I’ve come to learn that I romanticise alot from my own perspective – rose tinted glasses an all that. In other words I think I invented a version of him up myself. Hard to explain but I’m sure you get the gist of what I’m saying.
I’m sure he is thankful and perhaps even meant what he was saying, but they change so quickly from one minute to the next. It’s scary. It’s as tho they press the “fxxk it” button and boom!
Ah when you say that about spreading the texts etc that makes me sad ???? that’s kinda sweet but sad for you.
I hope you get what you need and deserve, whether from him or not. Whatever you do don’t let others pass you by hanging about for him.