So glad we don’t have kids together, to be honest it’s just a whole other sh*t storm of stress.
I have a kid and he has a kid though he doesn’t see his child and I try and keep him away from mine litrally but a couple of times they have crossed paths and when they do he’s the best guy ever full of motivation quotes and bloody laughs and am just like wow!!
His Mum is trying by the sounds of it to get him sorted as much as she can and he does look at least like hes got some remorse for her when he goes off on one same as he’s always crying and apologising and thanking me when hes in sane mind, but he tends to come over here to escape the eyes staring at him (as Ive always had the tone of I cannot stop you, the more I tell him not to do it the more he does it, its insane as if I put it in front of him he wouldnt take it hes like a child looking for a reaction!)
Where they live it’s in the sticks and hard to come by but where I am he lived in this area for 3 years so he only has to walk down the street and he’s got his ‘friends’ chatting to him .. I’ve even said I am going to move just so he’s not got the option but he tells me temptation is every where it’s on him to say no but when he’s drunk he has no morals.
Doesn’t help that narcotics rehab says hes allow to drink in moderation responsibly .. I spoke to one of his rehab mates in front of him on a zoom call and asked him what that means to him and he was like well having a glass of wine at dinner .. Having one pint out .. then I look over at My crazy t*at and he’s swigging vodka neat out the bottle like it’s water and like whaaat?? Just makes me think he pretends he doesn’t get it – so he can get away with it but he bloody does know and that’s what makes me mad!