Thank you for your insight and advice.
It’s like he has two personality’s , at the moment Richard wants nothing to do with me Or his dad as I’m interfering and controlling, plus I won’t give him any more money. He won’t let us in his flat and is verbally abusive to me if I knock. He has been doing drugs for over 14 years from my reckoning .
I have asked my elderly mother (84) to Pop round on Monday , hopefully that might wake him up , but he doesn’t seem to care about anyone but himself and his friends,, his cousin is reaching out to him as well , So he might speak to him – I know he’s hurting but he blanking me and doesn’t want my help, and the stress of knowing his rent of £1400 each month isn’t being paid . He’s burying his head in the sand and he looks like an old man .