It’s exhausting isn’t it. I wondered at some point why I attracted them so much. Turns out my mum had traits so I was a product of that behaviour and went to what was familiar to me!
I can spot them (narcs) a mile off too but I went into therapy and I learned how to manage them! I think I just wanted to fix them all haha
Anyways I think mine has probably got some traits, but a full on narc nah I don’t think so. He has a huge heart and he gets sad when I’m sad etc. Narcs are selfish and unfeeling!
As for the regrets well no you can’t change some of the things done but you can certainly avoid repeating or making amends as well as forgiving self!
Regrets can be used as a positive to make changes but they don’t see it that way. They love to wallow in self pity instead of standing tall and taking ownership of their issues.
That push and pull tho is exactly what we are both experiencing!