I relate because I have gone round my friend’s house at very short notice and also arrived and told her I’m staying multiple nights/not going back because I don’t feel safe.
She is so accommodating and her husband also. He said I never need to ask, but obviously I do as I feel like such a burden. I don’t just come alone! I have a little one trailing behind me.
I am the same as I don’t want to be around him when he’s doing ‘stuff’. Not only that, but afterwards it takes him days to come down and back up and while he is coming down it’s horrendous as he is so volatile, aggressive, moody and on edge. It is such a vicious cycle.
I shouldn’t have to live like this and neither should you.