If there’s one thing I’ve learned about addiction it’s that there is very little one can do to change another’s behaviour. As heartbreaking as that sounds its true. Sure, you can be there for practical things, but I think we’re talking more emotional here, and because you’re his mum, and been doing this for many years you must be exhausted and at the end of your tether! That in it’s self is just absolutely heartbreaking and I’m sorry you’re going thru this.
You have to look after yourself, as they say “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. One approach talks about the change in us. So, what that means is this: if we change, the things around us begin to change. Our perspective, our thinking, our behaviours and ultimately our needs. The hope is that this promotes positive energy which attracts more positive waves. I suppose in some way the “addict” may see this change and then want the same.
It makes sense but in practice that would be a challenge. It means we are forever changing… Some change with us and some don’t. And at some point we have to decide for ourselves what we can let go of and what we hold onto.
Happy to talk things through with you Kate anytime. Be nice to yourself.