Hi ahlags429,
This is a good place to start with finding help and talking to people who are in the same situation.
My Son is an addict (cocaine and alcohol), he is in Recovery, but having had 10 plus years of this, they are the only ones that can help themselves and only when they are ready.
He had been in Rehab twice, does zoom meetings every day for CA and AA, and has a sponsor to help him work through the 12 step recovery program.
This Forum is great for help and sharing our stories with each other, it has certainly helped me.
The trust is a huge thing, especially in a relationship, because they do lie, I sometimes wonder if they even know they are doing it.
There are lots of stories on here in the same situation as yourself, I don’t know whether you have read them.
The Icarus Trust is another place that is very helpful.
I wish you well, take care and keep in touch.
Dx