Coco1212, yes I’ve called his bluff before, that’s the last time we split up, he was gone 6 mths, we only got back together July this year after all the promises and talk about change blaah blaah blaah. I should have gone with my gut, I knew deep down things wouldn’t change. When he’s with me, he doesn’t use crack and coke as much as when we split up, I know he tries to keep it to a minimum but it’s like he doesn’t realise the affect it has on our relationship and on me. I don’t sleep well when he hasn’t had it for a couple of days due to the withdrawal affect it has on him, he doesn’t keep still, I mean like literally every 15 to 20 seconds he’s head banging, violently twitching tossing and turning but literally bounces when he turns. This goes on until hes in a deep sleep anything from 2 to 4hrs a night, when hes on it it’s mild so I can manage to fall asleep. His mood swings are so up and down, it’s what I assume living with someone with bipolar would be like. He won’t get help for any part of his addiction, he won’t even admit he’s got a problem, not even for the sleep behaviour.
I’m so happy your ex partner is trying to get help, hopefully you will be able to move forward and maybe eventually get your relationship back on track, 18 years is a long time, you sound like such a strong person. I think there needs to be more support for families of addicts because it’s not just their life that get destroyed xx