ha that is ironic about the finger.
also typical behavior that the odd occasion we lose it, it is treated like the ultimate sin yet they take no blame for all the times they cause all the trouble.
like my current scenario all based over me getting angry with the kids there,
so instead of the argument being about what i was annoyed about (her doing drugs with her daughter and letting the son have front row seat) it has now shifted to being about how I behaved etc.
They really are experts at turning everything away from themselves when it suits,
I guess its just years of practice and self deception too, as the lies and deception seem to be the main common thread amongst everyone’s stories.
do you live with your partner? as obviously that makes you more tied down but that alone isn’t a reason to stay.
I don’t live with her but I have been with her since she got her house and have helped every step to make it “our” home ready to move in one day,
and when she is the woman I love, she has all the same dreams with what we want and what we want to do with the house etc,
but I now accept I can never live there, as I can’t live in a house where I have to just accept the other 3 people being selfish and having no respect for me and also constantly feeling like in any disagreement I am automatically in the wrong and I am the one to have to leave.
even though the disagreements are always over either drugs and everyone leaving no end of mess for someone else to deal with.
there is no give and take, its one way, if I don’t like it then don’t move in, that’s my girlfriends attitude when she’s being a dick, yet other times she will agree that we do need to set rules and teach the kids etc but that’s just words that never actually come into action so I am always left looking like bad cop.