You are so sensible not moving in at least you can retreat to your domain when the lows hit. You seem like such a wonderful man, she is so lucky you have stood by her the way you have, but you’re left feeling foolish and banging your head against a brick wall, same as me.
We are married and live together, other than his daughter he has no family, few friends and nowhere to go. If I throw him out he’s homeless and my daughters will be devastated to lose their step sister and visa versa. Trapped is how I feel, partly because of my heart and partly the practicalities.
The only time we fall out is when the drinking starts otherwise it’s ‘perfect’ and everything I wanted, I must be deluded lol. He’s blamed me to the hospital before for ending up there, saying I won’t let him have alcohol so he’s withdrawing so badly he needs medical attention, the doctors have even called me and told me to give him a litre of vodka minus 10% and then reduce another 10% everyday, I’ve done what they said and he’s still ended up back there, it’s fecked up. Yeah because we are the bad ones…