I assume you have time off work at the moment due to Christmas period? It’s easy to get into a habit of late nights and sleeping in if you can’t get to sleep at night and then don’t have work the next morning to keep your routine. I’m in the same routine at the moment and will be shattered when I’m back to work again on the 4th.
You sound tired in your words.
It seems that they have to be selfish to aid their recovery, and I understand that you have to help yourself before you can help others, but when they are hell bent on destroying theirs and everyone else’s they are also being incredibly selfish, it seems that they are just allowed to be selfish and that’s ok. Explaining how what they have done has damaged us, is apparently not helpful to them so we have to essentially put up with whatever happens. It’s bizarre how everything basically seems to revolve around them.
He pays the rent yes but the money we have in the bank is to pay for rent and bills in a few days time so if he screws up before his following payday it’s the homeless shelter, I think the kids are more important than him and he has no access to the money now, harsh maybe.
Hopefully he will stick with it but I will not be holding my breath. He doesn’t approve of my speaking on here either, he seems to think it’s some date site and not anonymous at all, it’s just the brain that’s lagging now evidently!