thanks for the response,
I expect you almost knew this latest part of my story was coming.
its all such textbook behavior, on the part of both the drug user and me the partner. (but is the kids behavior normal??)
Things are certainly at an all time worst, so I guess that means I am in a weird way getting stronger as in the past I would have carried on trying and trying to fix it whereas this time I have got my stuff and left.
I also do completely intend to get my own home etc which does pretty much make it clear that that isn’t an empty threat and she really has destroyed the “home” we were making.
I think I am a very loving person and I am always left wanting more because she can never give me back the same level as I give out, it is all very one sided and I must be insane to keep putting myself through this, but here I am.