Hi,
Thank you for sharing your story and your feelings. I can really relate to a lot of the things you’ve talked about here, feeling lonely with someone who drinks, but also what you said about accepting that he is a bit better, is that the right thing to do? I feel exactly the same about my partner. We have only been together for 2 and a half years and lived together just over a year – I knew he had a problem with drinking in the past which he got help for himself (before we met) but this year has just been a real challenge and although he isn’t technically drinking as often, he does it more secretively, he lies about it all the time and I feel like I have lost all trust in him. I have to force myself to just ignore it because if I start checking up on him all the time it will drive me mad and I am trying to hard to look after my own anxieties which is so hard at the moment.
It’s such a difficult thing to know what to do. I really admire your strength and determination, and for coming onto a forum for help – I have just joined this forum today because I just need to let things out and talk about it in some way! I am happy to chat and support in any way I can.
Take care x