Exactly the same. I’m in my 30’s and I’ve been in relationships before where I’ve been in a similar dilemma (not with alcohol) and I’ve spent so many years in previous relationships that I always felt were wasted. You do feel like your missing out and I do too, I want to buy a house but the truth is, at the moment I want to do that on my own. I think my situation at the moment, I feel like I’m waiting until I know he can move on and be ok financially on his own. I have to think about his boys as well, and don’t get me wrong the whole thing is so upsetting and I am constantly crying on my own thinking about it, but I have to try and build up that strength and resolve to move on. He doesn’t think he has a problem, he doesn’t think he needs any help, and I don’t feel like I have a partner who loves and cares about me and who can be there for me. I’ve been in bed all day today, my body and brain has had a bit of a shut down because of everything I’m coping with and I’ve just spent all day sleeping and resting. He’s gone out walking for about 6 hours in total and come home drunk. Hasn’t washed a dish, hasn’t tried to support me at all, just left me to it and gone and done his own thing. Hasn’t even tried. I feel like our situations sound so similar, and even that and chatting here is helping me to keep addressing it and thinking about what to do. I appreciate the support and I hope you are ok x
