well, if I’ve learnt anything from all this David, it’s that you never really seem to get closure. And I’m certainly not wise, maybe just wiser for my experience. So I could make a judgement call.
An addict will usually not want to let go of the good things in the their lives. For me it’s been 3 years and my partner was where your girlfriend is.. he didn’t have a problem, he was just content to use, lie to me, and sneak off and do what he wanted. The more I cut off, the more he would come back, until eventually he admitted he had a problem and sought help. But he returned from one rehab after 2 weeks because he couldn’t have a room on his own. So now he is waiting on another place.
An addict cannot realise what they’ve lost if you’re still there.
But in my experience, they don’t like to let good things go, the things that are true in their lives. They either get fed up and low from the drugs, when they run out of money or sick of their cycle of abuse. And then they contact you. I never thought my partner (ex) would be saying the things he is, but as I said to you, I’ve heard it all before.
We are all on the same road. We just walk at different paces, that’s all.