if she gets clean for any substantial amount of time ALL of this will hit her. Trust me. I know. Because it’s hit my partner. Sadly the guilt and shame is what makes them continue to use. To mask it, shut it off.
Well, I done it David. I printed off my letter and I hand posted it into his box, barely 20 minutes ago. I feel a great weight has lifted from me. I’m not a vengeful nasty person so none of it is hurtful. I felt compelled to write and tell him ‘WHAT WENT WRONG? as clearly he wrote that he was mystified. The lack of insight beggars belief, but then I got a text saying ‘because of the drugs, I didn’t grasp the damage I was doing.’
Contradictory and addiction go hand in hand. As long as they are using drugs, they don’t have to deal with their conscience. My partner said this is now a terrible weight on his conscience, now he can see how he’s treated me. (However, I HAVE heard all this before in letters, did it stop him using and lying to me? no).
If your girlfriend is stealing money from her own son, David that is bad. That is a problem that she really needs to acknowledge before you can even begin to help her. Trying to intervene right now, as she is, will only cause you a world of pain.
You will get no thanks for it.