I was going to ask have you heard from him since he read the letter,
well done for posting it, I think it’s the right thing to do for you,
whether it will ever change anything of course is a different matter,
but it might change things for you rather than him.
and like we know, he will read it and feel bad whilst not on drugs, but then what can he do to stop feeling bad, of course the answer is MORE DRUGS.
yes the stealing from her son is kind of indirect,
basically it’s the money from his dad, that she gets each month, but a few years ago she said she would save it all and give it to her son, but of course when she started on the coke again, that was just money for her to take.
so when I paid off the payday loans etc this was one of the conditions that I needed to be able to see her bank and see that the money was getting forwarded to her son each month.
But when you think about it, all the child benefit and tax credits and her son has aspergers so she gets disability money for him too, any money she spends on drugs and drink is been afforded because she has children and that is money she is given to provide for them.
the council house she has is because she has children.
and all of this has enabled her a much easier life to be more wasteful with.
someone in the same job as her on the same money with no kids wouldn’t get a penny from the state and they wouldn’t stand a chance of getting a council place (not round this area maybe some parts of UK are different),
so someone else in the same shoes without kids would have private rent on a tiny flat or bedsit or shared house that would cost about the same as the 3 bedroom house she has because she has kids.
she isn’t stupid and when she isn’t selfishly on drugs she can see how lucky she is that she lives in a world that rewards her mistakes in such a way.
of course with her son getting older the clock is ticking on the help she will receive.
when tax credits stop and her sons disability money is his own she will lose a lot of her monthly income and be expected to struggle and work for what she has like the rest of the world.
I fear she will just start selling her body at this point, or perhaps sooner as even the current finance situation isn’t enough to fund the sort of coke problem she had last year hence £10,000+ of debt she was in.
yet of course if she didn’t destroy our future I would have moved in and we would have had two incomes etc, I would have liked to try and buy the council house too to know we would be secure as we got older, but all of this is commitments she cannot make when under the spell of drugs.