Reply To: Do I accept he doesn’t want to give up?

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mjmb
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Holkat, VMac123 and Roundy your comments and experiences are just familiar. Thank you for your support.

I don’t think I can cope with the roller coaster of emotions much more but I know I am scared in particular about what he will do if I say enough is enough and we’re splitting. I’ve experienced one call from a paramedic who’d been called to take him to A&E and don’t want to go through that again. There are also practicalities like finances and unpicking a life of so many years. But, having come home to another night of him obviously drunk and still appearing to be drunk this morning as he weaved his way around the house spilling tea – or whatever liquid is in the mug – everywhere I just don’t think I can do this any longer.

Covid and lockdown makes everything so much harder, last year I put off making any decisions until after Christmas. What now? Covid isn’t going to just go away any time soon. I am lucky I have a secure job but he doesn’t. Whatever I feel I don’t want him to end up on the street or worse. But how long do you wait – another 6 months, year, two, three years? Life isn’t always a bed of roses (my father’s expression!) but like you say we deserve to be happy and be supported. It’s no help to me if I get support when my husband’s sober but none (or worse) when he’s not.

I hope you have a good day and take care of yourselves x

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