[desperate92]

He says he does want to quit but as he’s just been sober for 7 months, he’s not seeing this lapse as a addiction issue but he keeps calling it “a blip” instead. Am I being harsh and as he’s just managed to go 7 months without it, does he deserve that “blip”? I don’t think that’s right but I have no idea how to deal with this and what’s the right thing to do.

Some advice says you shouldn’t shout at them or blame them both other posts say to be strong and don’t be enabler. I’m finding it so hard with what to do.

Yes it’s the last smoke at night and because I go to bed before him then there isn’t anyone but himself to say no to. I think that’s where he struggles