[davidk]

well i hope rehab helps him sort himself out,

Do you see yourself as more like a supportive friend rather than a romantic interest in him now.

here’s a quote from a book I was reading that I think sums up my current calm

“once you’ve vanished its best to stay that way,to return is to rematerialise into the madness of others”

so by refusing to re enter the home or even see the kids or anything, I have avoided the madness of that house rematerilising for me, and for me to return there I think would just cause all the previous hurt and emotion to return, but currently out of sight out of mind seems to be working.