Hi Daz
Just wanted to say Congratulations on being 9 months clean, you should be very proud of what you have achieved!
I know it can’t have been easy for you. My son is currently 4 months clean and I understand the difficulties you’ve both had to overcome to fight these addictions.
My son followed the 12 steps and part of it was apologising to all the people he’d hurt while using.
Its part of the healing process for all involved, then you can move on.
It sounds that your wife still hasn’t quite got over it yet, but you’re doing your best now. Please don’t beat yourself up over it.
The children will come to an age where their views will change. They will come round in their own time.
Your a better person now, you’ve been battling addiction for years, we can’t keep living in the past.
Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers, but I know forgiveness is a big part of recovery.
Hopefully your partner will realise that soon.
Keep on doing what you’re doing, you are an inspiration to others here, with your advice and support.
Take care
Lx