I went through this 16yrs ago. None of this is your fault, no matter how long you were with him the reality is your life never really began. You have always been held back by the addiction. You have to grief, and maybe you will never get over this but for me I got a degree and I moved on and enjoyed other aspects of life I had missed out on. Unfortunately I am going through this again with my son so I have no answers but you have to take care of yourself and your daughters. Addiction is a form of slow suicide. It’s only when the person realises they don’t really want to die that they stop. We cant make the choices for that person – it is people like us that love/care too much that tolerate this for years and years… and in a way enable that person to continue their addiction through our unconditional love. But that doesn’t mean you are to blame, it means that we are afraid we will hurt them more by giving up on them – so we too are learning a lesson that that is really not the case. They choose their ending – you now have to choose your new beginning and remember him the best way you can. Much love and prayers for you and your family.xxx
