Sorry you are going through a tough time. I like your question as I am going through the same problem with my partner who actually is an ex partner now. ( last week )
I have been with with him for over 12 years and its been hard.
I constantly think he will change he stops and starts all the time. It leaves me feeling so confused and upset. I’m constantly let down and I feel like every 3 months we go back to squares one. He has completely broken my trust and let our children down. I would also love to hear other insights on this.
He has been crying to have me back but then when I ask him to make changes for example stop socialising
with bad company and maybe change his phone number the reply I got back was if you are going to control me then this relationship won’t work he wants to be able to do as he wants… this I just can’t understand I’m not trying to control him I just want him to make good choices and try better his life. Is this a bad thing I’m asking… sorry to just go on but how can you help someone with an addiction and what are the signs that basically tell you to walk away…. please any advice !