Sorry I haven’t logged in here for a while. I’m really sorry you are going through this. I was in the position that it was my house so maybe easier to get out. I sought counselling through The Icarus Trust. It really helped me. I asked my boyfriend to leave. It was hard. He kept turning back up and leaving things on my doorstep if I didn’t answer. Just trying to get back in to my life basically. In the end I just had to completely cut contact and not respond. It actually was much easier then. Once you get out of this cycle and cut contact and can have some head space to care and look after yourself again, I realised actually what a really awful situation it was and it was never going to change. It takes all your energy just to get through. I was single for over a year and then when I have now met someone else, I had got myself back and realised the pattern I was in. Please get some support from The Icarus Trust or go to your Gp and explain you really need some help with counselling. I used to feel so angry that I was the one needing to have counselling and support when I felt that I wasn’t the one with the problem, but it was the best thing I did. I did have a massive problem and it affected every part of my life! You have to look after yourself and put yourself first.
