Well I am feeling better from reading some of the posts on here. I really thought my situation was unusual but there are other people going through each of the things I have experienced with this.
When he gets asked to drive this person round it’s like he thinks he’s a vip or something, hes the favourite being asked to chauffeur him around, I just find it cringey as this person lives around this area I feel so embarrassed and angry like he thinks he owns my husband he can just get him to do what he likes whenever he asks. If he doesn’t get involved with the driving or asking to buy anything then he will get messages asking how he is like how a friend would check up on you. The problem is as much as this man annoys me he isn’t the only one, my husband has several people he can buy it off however he seems the most pushy like a sales man. It’s quite widely available in my area but I know even if it wasn’t my husband would travel to get it when he’s at his worst. The problem is when he’s at his best and trying to stop or cut down it makes it harder for him to resist it when it’s right there. We have actually had some better days – which is good for us as I think he had been doing it most days maybe every day. I have told him this isn’t acceptable. I’ve been reading up on this more and learning how It’s like an illness or disease that can’t be cured and am trying to come to terms with the fact this will always be something he has to resist rather than the problem going away. There have been times in the past i thought it had gone away and so hadn’t kept track of him but I now know that if I want to help then I can’t just think everything’s ok if he seems alright.