Hi Cashhurt,
I am so sorry to read your story and sad to hear of the loss of your nephew. Another young person lost to this evil illness of addiction.
So many on this forum with stress and anxiety worrying about loved ones, this is our worst nightmare.
My son also has alcohol and cocaine addictions. He is 28yrs, he’s was clean for almost 6 months and relapsed a week ago.
I’ve said we won’t be paying any more drug debts, I buy food and cigs when he has no cash, until payday. I understand it’s an illness, its hard when you try to be firm.
Please don’t blame yourself, I also have a young daughter, she has been exposed to this dark underworld that we previously knew nothing about. Fortunately (or unfortunately) he lives alone.
I’ve told him he needs to be in contact every day with us. As I know after taking cocaine, people get “lost” or out of it for days.
This is what worries me, when he doesn’t get in touch, I fear the worst. The drugs make them selfish, they don’t realise the hurt they cause their families.
No one has the answers, we can only hope and pray that we can help and support as best we can, without our own (and others in our family ) health and well-being being affected.
It is ultimately down to the choices they themselves make, we can only be there to support them where we can and if we’re able.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lx