I’m the wife, who thought we left the nightmare behind decades ago. If I knew then what I know now – would I still be here? I keep asking myself. His addiction has provided so much hurt. I didn’t deserve any of it. Neither did he. I didn’t sign up for it. I mean really, if the person you love were to tell you flat out, ‘I’m gonna do coke, and I’m gonna disappear for long periods of time – you will never know where I’m going or who I will be with or know what we will do, large amounts of money will be spent, you will be treated badly, there will be numerous lies – right to your face, and there will be cheating.’ This will be your life. Does it matter if they love you or you love them? Trying hard to keep my truth, which is to be happy with us one day at a time going forward. Stay in the present moment and not think about the events that are in the past that I hate. If you really love your wife (addicted man), give up the drugs anyway that you can and let yourself be happy again. And, wife if you really love your addicted man – give him a chance to be happy again. By truly leaving it in the past. How’s that for a challenge?
